This is a difficult question. Unfortunately, it is also a common question. It is a question that, even when pressing, most try to avoid. But when we avoid the question, the person who gets hurt most is the person who has been betrayed.
The Summit staff just finished reading "When Helping Hurts," which is a book that JD has recommended recently on his blog.
Below is a great interview with the Summit's church planting pastor Curt Alan:
We asked the Summit Staff Team to dish a few good reads they would recommend to everyone and got a great response. One we'd like to share comes from Summit Elder David Baber.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always thought of self-control as a matter of do’s and don’ts: If you can do what is right and avoid what is wrong then you have the virtue of self-control. End of story.
We believe in fighting sin together at The Summit Church. One way to do that is through intentional relationships that hold you accountable to that fight. We asked Cynthia Mann to share her insights into what accountability should look like.
Here are some helpful suggestions as you carry out the ministry of reconciliation.
On the weekend of January 12, 2010, Summit's campus pastors did an incredible job explaining the ministry of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:16-21). This passage makes me grateful that God has reconciled us to Himself (5:18), and I am even more eager to live each day as an “ambassador for Christ” (5:20).
Pastor J.D.’s Blog
Theological and pastoral thoughts from Pastor J.D.
Counseling resources from Pastor of Counseling Brad Hambrick.